On January 12 this year, James Dao published the subtle and moving story of Jackie Finken and her daughters, Emilie, Caroline and Julia. They lost their beloved husband and father, Paul in 2006.
He was killed when a bomb exploded under his vehicle in Iraq. Lieutenant Colonel Finken, of the 101st Airborne Division, was on his team’s 469th mission and it was going to be the last before returning home.
Now, more than six years since that tragedy, Jackie raises her daughters alone, but always asks Paul’s advice when she’s unsure how to deal with an issue.
The memories do not fade but she works to keep them in perspective. She does not want her daughters to be defined by their loss and now she has a growing certainty that she and the girls are okay: moving toward a better place.
We wanted to understand the strength and insight that James Dao recorded. He captured her extraordinary insight when she said:
“I don’t want to squeeze the life out of the memories, because I want them to still be precious and mean something. I also don’t want the memories to drag us down. Because memories can do that sometimes.”
DeepWord analyzed her words for us and its response said so much. Jackie’s words were focused on knowing and believing. This suggests she is drawing from a deep well of certainty.
And, DeepWord senses the emotions that underpin her words. It perceives feelings of being distant, candid, and vigilant. These are the emotions of the realist and the guardian.
It is clear that she has grown through this searing test. And, DeepWord perceives deeper motivations that are serious, trustworthy and emphatic. You can see why we were so moved and impressed by this remarkable soul.
But, other words also took our breath away.
Paul left “pick me up” notes for his daughters that are now collected in a cookie jar. They included messages like:
“Give your mommy a big hug.” “Make a silly face.” “No whining, be happy.”
We gathered these three precious messages and gave them to DeepWord. Its response said so much about this special man.
DeepWord said he was focused on feeling and expressing. He is at the heart of hearts. It perceived his mood to be attentive, assertive and expectant. What classic fatherly emotions he expresses! And his deeper motivations? DeepWord perceived he was focused, unyielding and dignified.
May his family live long with his inspiring legacy.
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